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5 mistakes many parents make during and after a divorce

Divorce can be stressful in even the most amicable of situations. Unfortunately, when children are involved, a divorce can get contentious. At Palmer Rodak & Associates, we are prepared to help divorcing couples in California navigate these issues without bringing children into the conflict. As you may understand, your children are likely to be profoundly affected by your divorce, and the way you and your spouse act toward each other and around the kids can impact how they heal and adjust.

As Working Mother explains, children are often exposed to conflict during their parents’ divorce even unintentionally. The following tips illustrate common mistakes you or your spouse might make during your divorce and while co-parenting:

  • Using the children to relay messages to the other parent or spy on the other parent’s activities, instead of directly communicating with the ex
  • Talking bad about the other parent to the children or to other people in front of the kids
  • Discussing stressful adult issues, such as child support or parenting gripes, to the children
  • Being the “fun” parent, either out of guilt or to undermine the other parent, and not enforcing rules and responsibilities
  • Not being consistent with schedules or structure, which children need during times of upheaval

There is no reason you should not have fun with your children or indulge them once in a while during your divorce. In fact, it is more important than ever to create good memories to replace the bad ones while you are going through this difficult time together. However, you will need to make decisions based on your children’s best interests, rather than do things to spite your ex or to try to make up for the divorce. Our child custody page explains more about co-parenting with an ex-spouse.

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