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How can you reduce fights over inheritance among adult children?

If you have raised multiple children in California, you may be used to the inevitable challenges and disagreements that arise among them. Such battles may start at a young age and involve everything from who gets the better bedroom to who gets to drive the newer car, but these petty squabbles can prove far more serious if they involve your will.

Your will is intended to help express your wishes and show how you want your assets to be distributed after your passing, and the idea, per AARP, is to have it simplify, rather than complicate matters. All too often, however, wills cause considerable strife among siblings, and this in part due to the fact your children may view the document as having implications that stray beyond the simple allocation of assets. Your children may view how much you leave them as an indication of how much you loved or believed in them in comparison to their siblings, so it is important to minimize future infighting over the will as much as possible when crafting it.

Among the easier ways to do so is to simply divide your estate equally among your children, even if you believe that one child may “need” certain assets more than others. This ensures that your successful children are not being punished for having their ducks in a row. It may, too, benefit your family to hire an executor outside of the family who will be in charge of distributing your assets in your absence so that other children do not feel they were overlooked.

It is also important to be transparent when discussing your will and its tenets with your children. Letting them know upfront how you have chosen to allocate assets that may cause tension will likely minimize any strain on your children’s relationships with one another down the line. Essentially, the more planning that goes into creating your will and the more transparent you are about its allocations, the more likely you are to reduce tension among your children once you pass on.

This information is intended to serve an educational purpose, but it is not meant to be taken as legal advice. 

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