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Common divorce blunders and how to avoid them

Many people across California and the United States choose to initiate a divorce after the holiday season, but “jumping the gun” and filing before one’s affairs are fully in order can prove disastrous for all involved. Per Market Watch, many divorce lawyers across the nation report a spike in business shortly after the start of the year, some of which likely results from the additional financial and emotional stress and strain many people experience throughout the holidays.

Filing out of frustration or anger, however, is generally an unwise move, according to the president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, who advises strongly against making decisions based on emotion, as opposed to careful consideration and logic. Making decisions based on logic, rather than emotion, too, is important if a divorce ultimately moves forward. Generally speaking, the more acrimonious divorce proceedings prove to be, the more each party will likely have to spend on legal representation.

Someone considering filing for divorce should also avoid involving any children to the fullest extent possible, reports the Huffington Post, and this includes speaking negatively about one’s soon-to-be ex in front of the children. Keeping children entirely in the dark, however, can also backfire, particularly as the kids age and become more aware and intuitive about what is going on around them. Maintaining a balance and keeping any children informed on a “need to know” basis about changes that are likely to directly impact them is often the safest and least-harmful route.

While planning for the divorce itself is important, so, too, is planning for life afterward. It is easy to get caught up in the emotional aspect of separating and fail to take into account matters such as where each party will live, and how each party will support themselves, post-split. By crunching numbers and creating a financial plan, divorcing parties can often get a better handle on how to live life on their own while also laying the groundwork in the event they choose to seek spousal or child support. 

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