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Nip custody trouble in the bud before it ruins your summer

Since the court finalized your divorce, you and your kids have been spending lots of quality time together, talking about your feelings, the future and plans you have for making new memories together. You've also been discussing the logistics of the situation, such as where they will live, how often they will see their other parent and other pertinent details. Like many California parents, you may now be looking forward to spending a fun, relaxing summer with your kids. 

You have to work a lot of the time, but you'll have time off as well and hope to take a few trips and also kick back at home and enjoy your kids' company. If your ex isn't easy to get along with and tries to thwart your summer plans, you may need the court's help to resolve a particular problem.  

Helpful ideas that may help you avoid trouble 

It is the first of many summers to follow since your divorce, but that doesn't mean it has to be full of stress or discord between you and your former spouse. In fact, studies show that kids fare best in divorce when they witness their parents working together to keep their children's best interests in mind. The list that follows includes tips for keeping summer break stress levels low: 

  • Plan as far in advance as possible. No one likes negative surprises, and your ex may think you're trying to take advantage if you're always calling at the last minute or changing agreed-upon plans. 
  • If your court order includes terms regarding a particular issue, you are not free to change your plan unless you obtain the court's permission.
  • If your co-parenting agreement says the kids stay with your ex for three weeks in June, then you cannot change that. If you need to change it and the other parent agrees to the change, you must still seek the court's approval. 
  • Expect to have to compromise. It's summer. Embrace the idea that summer often includes relaxed routines and changes of plans, then roll with it, best you can. 
  • You can trade parenting time with court approval. If something comes up and you really want to take your kids somewhere when they're scheduled to be away from you, you can barter by offering to trade holidays or some other pre-planned visitation time.  

Children are generally resilient and adaptable; parents who are willing to try to be the same, especially during summer after divorce, not only are leading their kids by good example but may find themselves enjoying vacation time more because they're not fretting over minor issues. If a serious legal problem arises, you can take immediate steps to protect your rights and resolve the situation.

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